add mutex timeout limit; use atomic as refcount.

lichao

2021-04-22 1d6c040dcb9a01648edc66d8c0006c8c9294a705

 .gitignore

@@ -9,4 +9,5 @@
*/bhshmq_center
*/help
*/bhshmqbox
*/bhshmq_status
*/bhshmq_status
.idea