add mutex timeout limit; use atomic as refcount.

lichao

2021-04-22 1d6c040dcb9a01648edc66d8c0006c8c9294a705

 proto/source/bhome_msg_api.proto

@@ -9,8 +9,8 @@

message BHAddress {
   bytes mq_id = 1; // mqid, uuid
   // bytes ip = 2;   //
   // int32 port = 3;
   bytes ip = 2;   //
   int32 port = 3;
}

message ProcInfo